How to get the job you want

Whether you are wanting to change direction, gain promotion or get your first job, by following my top tips on how to get the job you want, you can get closer to your dream role.

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There is nothing better than hearing from one of my clients to say they have landed the job they really wanted! I get so much pleasure from empowering people to make the most of their potential and move into a job which makes them feel happy, satisfied and valued. You can find more about career coaching with me here: Career Coaching in Bristol – Abi Unwin – Certified Career Coach (

In this week’s post, I thought I’d share my top preparation tips around how to get the job you want. And hopefully make the process more enjoyable.

  1. Get clear on what your dream job is. You need to be specific here. What is the job title, what are the variations? Find out about the requirements of the role and what the main elements are. You can do this in several ways – obviously you can search online and look at job sites like Indeed: Job Search | Indeed. But other methods could be using your contacts – who do you already know? Can you ask them more about the details – what the job is really like, for example, and whether you need particular experience or qualifications. Linked in is a great way to network and connect with other professionals in the area you wish to move into. By asking questions, you can build your knowledge about the job you want and also relationships with people. Knowledge is power and knowing the right people can be invaluable.
  2. Once you know more about the role you want to apply for, it’s time to think about how you fit the requirements of the job. Do you have the right training, qualifications and experience? Look at the person specification on the job advert and go through the essential criteria. Be honest and realistic – if there are things on there which you don’t currently have, is it worth applying at this stage? Or do you need to take other action first.
  3. Formulate a plan – what do you need to do next? Apply for further training, gain a qualification, get more experience? Write down what it is you need to do, and think about who can help you get there. A career coach can support you to plan short and longer term actions as well as find solutions to potential issues. National Careers Service have a helpful website which includes info on job roles, qualifications and training. Careers advice – job profiles, information and resources | National Careers Service
  4. What is the timescale you’re working towards? Do you need to be in the job within a certain amount of time? Do you need to be earning a certain amount of money to cover outgoings etc? Once you have established a timescale for the end result (the job you want) you can start to plan in smaller, short term actions. What can I do this week/month? By focussing on the smaller steps, you can reduce overwhelm and feel more in control. Applying for jobs can be a challenging process so mindset is really important. Finding ways to remain motivated will be vital to staying positive and achieving the career you want.
  5. Be realistic! If the plan doesn’t feel doable, or the timescale doesn’t fit with the other things going on in your life right now, you may need to adjust the actions you will take. Perhaps more help and support is needed, either with finances, time planning or other potential barriers. Thinking about what might stop you, and coming up with possible solutions can help you feel more confident and focussed.
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6. Know yourself and be confident about what you bring to the role. What are your key strengths and skills? How can you use these in the job you want? Asking your colleagues and a manager, and perhaps someone who knows you well outside of work can give you a different perspective on this. What do they think your 6 main strengths are? Also make sure you know why it is you want to do this job and that you can clearly articulate this.

7. Update your CV, Linked In profile and any other profiles you may have created on job sites to reflect your strengths, highlight your key skills but make sure this is relevant to the job you want! That’s why being specific about the actual role you’re after is crucial because it allows you to tailor your CV and profile to the job. There are free CV templates and tips for creating a CV here at CV advice | National Careers Service and also on Linked In. There you will find free webinars which show you how to update your profile and create a great CV using Linked In. LinkedIn Career Guidance Hub

8. Prepare your covering letter – again, tailoring it to the specific role and company. Don’t just adapt an old one and take short cuts here. The covering letter is introducing your CV and telling the recruiter why they should take time to look at the CV so it’s really important to make a good first impression. There are some nice tips around creating a good covering letter here at Cover Letter Samples and Templates |

9. Get ready to shine at your interview! Ideally you want to view this as a two way process where you are finding out more about the job, company and the opportunities this role can bring as much as it’s for the recruiter to check you out. If it’s a good match from both sides, it shows that this is the right job for you and you are right for the employer. But if the interview doesn’t go well, or you don’t feel confident about explaining how you can match the requirements of the job – there is help out there!

10. Career coaches who specialise in interview techniques can be really helpful and also mentors who know more about the role are good sources of support. Learning about the process so that you understand how to succeed at interview will allow you to develop confidence and feel more positive. I love the STAR technique for answering questions as it helps to keep you focussed, even in times when nerves might kick in! You can find out more about how I can empower you through career coaching in a free consultation which is offered to all new clients. Book a FREE Coaching Consultation – Bristol – UK – Worldwide (

I wish you the best of luck with planning your next steps towards getting the job you want. And don’t feel you have to do it alone – there is loads of help out there with information, advice and guidance to support your career plans. Life is too short to stay in a job you don’t like – you are worth so much more!

Living happier – how can we experience more joy in our daily lives

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Welcome to January! Here are six simple steps you can take to live happier and find the joy in your life this year…starting now.
  1. Keep things simple. Whether it be scaling back on plans, reducing your expenditure or slowing down a little bit – reducing the busy schedule and creating time to enjoy the present moment is key to living happier. None of us know how long we have to enjoy our lives, so we need to make the most of each moment, in the here and now.
  2. Add a mindful activity to your day. This can be anything from sewing to running, as long as it’s something you can do with your brain in ‘idle’ mode. Switching off our thinking helps us to find clarity and live happier. When we are rested, we can regulate our emotions much more effectively. Meditation, deep counted breathing, reading, watching a comedy….whatever works for you!
  3. Create time to reflect. What went well today? What did I really enjoy? How can I do more of what makes me feel happier? By taking time out to think about our day, we can realise and focus on what brings us joy in the days ahead.
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4. Make plans for the future. It helps us to have some things to look forward to. They don’t have to be expensive holidays or elaborate plans. Just a call arranged with a friend at the weekend, or a walk to a new place for example, can be enough to help us through. Writing it on the calendar or having a visual reminder can lift our mood and get us into a habit of living happier.

5. Choose to smile! The act of smiling actually sends a signal to our brain which tells us we feel happy. explains this further here: Forcing a Smile May Improve Your Mood, Study Suggests ( When we smile at others, they too feel happy and will often smile back. Share the happiness – living happier is something we can all benefit from. Especially in the cold, winter months of January when moods are often lower.

6. Use all your senses – and really taste, smell and hear happiness! When you are doing something you enjoy, spend a moment realising what it feels like. What can you see, hear, smell, touch and taste? Soak in the happier mood. Drink it in and savour it! You can choose to return there if you can remember the details in your mind.

Christmas and Mental Health

How does Christmas affect our mental health? Read on to find out more and gain tips on how to cope with stress over the Christmas period with some suggestions for supporting others.

This is a time of year which often puts extra pressure on us. Christmas can affect our mental health in lots of different ways, whether or not we choose to participate in the festivities.

For example, you may

  • Feel worried about the financial pressure of buying gifts/travelling/affording Christmas
  • Miss people who are no longer in your life and feel lonely
  • Wish you could make it perfect and worry about what might go wrong
  • Feel overwhelmed by all the things on your to do list…parties, school events, work events, family get togethers etc.
  • Not feel like celebrating this year but don’t know how to explain this to others
  • Feel worried about over-eating, or drinking alcohol if you have recently stopped drinking

“I can feel the pressure start to rise in December when there are so many expectations from family and friends. I just don’t know how I’m going to do it all.”

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Christmas can affect our mental health is other ways too. Experiences during the Coronavirus restrictions might affect how you feel about being around people. Usual routines can be disrupted. New Year can also be a hard time. We might be reflecting on our lives and thinking about all those things we haven’t achieved.

What can I do to maintain good mental health at Christmas?

Here are a few tips for getting through the festive period and looking after your wellbeing.

  • Delegate! Ask others to help out. Don’t feel you have to do everything yourself. Often people like to feel included and enjoy having a purpose. If you have visitors, why not give them a job to do? Washing up, handing out the presents, feeding the pets – little jobs can really make a difference when they are shared out.
  • Take a break – five minutes peace can really help. Nipping out of the house for a walk around the block, going into the garden for a cup of tea, having a warm bath or enjoying a phone call to a friend who understands. Don’t feel guilty about having some time away if you feel you need to take a break because we all need refreshing on occasions.
  • Say no. If you don’t feel able to travel to see relatives or can’t afford to go to a Christmas do – it’s fine to say a polite ‘no’. Don’t over stretch yourself or your finances.
  • Prioritise your wellbeing. If you need to take your medication, exercise, rest or simply stick to certain routines – it’s OK to make this your priority. Sometimes we can feel that Christmas takes over and normality goes out of the window, but it doesn’t have to be this way. If you know you need to do certain things to stay well, why not think about a plan to make sure this happens. There is nothing wrong with setting healthy boundaries for yourself at Christmas.
  • Take some time to reflect. What are you proud of this year? What has gone well? How can you do more of what you love doing next year? Who can help? Journalling and writing things down can be a helpful way of reflecting and focussing thoughts. Could this be incorporated into a bedtime routine as part of winding down at the end of each day?

If you feel worried about how you are coping and would like to talk to someone, there are many organisations you can reach out to for help. Mind charity has local support services which you can find here, Find local Minds – Mind.

Please feel free to share with someone and comment below with your thoughts. Wishing you a joyful and peaceful Christmas time, Abi.

How to life coach yourself

Check out this latest post and discover my top tips on how to life coach yourself into action and boost your motivation levels. (Especially important in the busy run up to Christmas for many of us!)

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“The only difference between success and failure is the ability to take action.”

A.G Bell

It is totally possible to coach yourself. As a professional life coach, it’s something I do all the time to boost my own motivation and take actions towards my goals. Today I am going to share six simple tips to show you how to life coach yourself too.

  1. Notice your own limiting beliefs. What I mean by this is to become aware of the negative narrative in your head. That little voice that nags away, causing us to doubt ourselves, preventing us from making changes and limiting our progress. It could be a voice from a teacher, parent or person from the past who criticised us in formative years. Or it may be your own voice echoing negative thoughts. If you’re not sure what I mean, here are some examples: “I’m always late for everything.” This is a common belief I have noticed many clients have. Another one is “I don’t like meeting new people.”
  2. Coaching isn’t about making judgements. It’s not for me to say whether these beliefs are true or not. But I ask the question, “Is believing this about yourself helping you to reach your goal?” Usually I will also ask, “Is this definitely true?” Beliefs are not facts. They can change. So, try asking yourself these questions too – look for evidence. Are you actually always late for everything? Probably not. Do you really hate meeting new people? Maybe only certain types of people who are not welcoming but making friends with individuals you share common likes with is actually enjoyable.
  3. Try coming up with a more empowering belief – making sure it’s realistic and plausible! It’s not good just stating the opposite, i.e, “I am always on time” or “I enjoy meeting new people.” Our brains will not buy it. We need to come up with something that is definitely true which we can’t argue against. You can do this by thinking about what you are currently doing to address this issue – or what you plan to do! (Just make sure you do it!) Something like, “Every day I am trying harder to be punctual for appointments.” You could combine this more empowering belief with the action of using a reminder on your phone or utilising a calendar app, for example. “I am learning how to reach out to new people more positively” could be a more empowering statement you choose to use alongside joining a new club.
  4. Ask yourself how this new, empowering affirmation makes you feel. Try it out! Every time you notice that negative, limiting belief, replace it with your new statement. You can life coach yourself and ask, “Is believing this helping me towards my goal?” Noticing if you feel more confident and motivated by your empowering belief will enable it to become more powerful for you.
  5. Practice saying it out loud at least three times per day. You can use a life coaching method of habit stacking to do this. What are you currently doing regularly? Driving to work, driving home, brushing your teeth, boiling a kettle? By stacking the new habit that you wish to create onto an existing one, you give yourself a much higher chance of success! I love a post it note and have been known to stick them on kitchen cupboards and mirrors. Find a way that works for you!
  6. Tell other people your new empowering belief. If, for example, you are late to a meeting you could say that you are sorry for being late and that you are working on being more punctual to avoid this happening again. Every time you tell someone else your new belief, as well as yourself, you make it more powerful for yourself.

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How to Check in with Yourself

Check in with yourself using six prompts to assess your physical and mental wellbeing. This easy, quick way to gain perspective in a busy time takes only 10 minutes.

Why? It’s very easy to ignore physical signs of stress when we are rushing about. A headache, stomach upset, niggling neck pains for example, can all be overlooked during a hectic week. Failing to notice these signs though, can cause us to become unwell. By taking a moment to pause and check in how we feel in our bodies, we can notice warning signs and make a change before our wellbeing is compromised.

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How to check in with yourself?

Grab a pen and paper – this helps to focus thinking and to process thoughts more deeply than by typing them on a phone/computer. (It’s also great to reflect back at a later date.)

Here are six key questions for you to check in with yourself

  1. How am I feeling in my own body? Put down the pen and paper for a moment, close your eyes and scan down through your body. Are there any areas of tension or pain? Does my breathing feel quick or slow? Are my shoulders hunched or relaxed? Are my hands clenched or loose? Take 30 seconds to assess how you feel physically and check in with your body. Sounds so obvious – but when we are super busy, we often fail to really ‘feel’ how we feel! You can note down any observations if you like.
  2. What is my battery charge feeling like on a scale of 1% to 100%? Does it feel like there is plenty of energy left within me or do I need a bit of a recharge? Score yourself and write down your percentage. We are very aware of when we need to plug in our phones to charge up, but are we so on the ball when it comes to our own energy levels?
  3. Have I drunk enough water today/this week? Do I feel hydrated or a bit dry and thirsty? Scale of 1-10, note down your score.
  4. What have my eating habits been like today/this week? Again, on a scale of 1-10, what would you score yourself here? Does your tank feel full of premium fuel or are you running on empty with a warning light on?
  5. How do I feel in my mood? Have I been patient and able to make decisions clearly this week? Have I been snappy or felt muddled, unable to decide on something? What has my communication been like with others this week? Bring your awareness to how you feel emotionally – jot down some thoughts here if you like.
  6. What am I avoiding? (Am I avoiding anything?) This is a question that can take us by surprise. But it’s often the things that we are avoiding that are draining us the most. Is there something you can do? Or is there someone you can ask for help?
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Why not make a drink and relax while you’re doing this?

Next steps you can take for yourself

Now you have hopefully got a better idea of how you are after a 10 min check in with yourself. Perhaps there are some actions you want to take to make a few changes? As a coach I always encourage small steps to reduce overwhelm and aid positive action.

What small steps could you take to boost your energy and recharge? Maybe it’s as simple as getting an early night, booking a shopping delivery (including some nutritious food) or filling up your water bottle and leaving it on your desk so you remember to drink. Or do you need to adjust your desk position, finish work a little earlier or make time to see your GP? Just one little change can make a big difference and if you do this regularly, you can build up with more actions if you want to.

Getting into the habit of checking in with ourselves each week can be so beneficial. When we are aware of how our body feels we can notice warning signs of stress much more effectively.

How are you really feeling today?

6 Ways to Boost your Energy Levels

Now that we have moved into Autumn, we may feel a dip in our motivation. As the days get shorter and the temperatures drop, how can we boost our energy levels?

Here are 6 simple tips I’ve put together which could help!

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Go outdoors!

Exposing yourself to the sun’s rays is one of the best ways to boost energy levels and mood. Sunlight causes a release of serotonin, that feel-good chemical. It also affects the production of melatonin, which regulates our sleep cycles. Plus vitamin D is boosted when we are in sunlight so there are some great reasons to get outside. Even in overcast weather, we can feel the benefits of the fresh air. According to, “Almost a decade ago, a study from the University of Michigan showed that interacting with nature improves cognitive function no matter the weather. Participants in the study increased their memory performance and attention spans by more than 20% after just an hour of interacting with nature.”

Check your diet

It can be tempting to stock up on sweet comfort foods when the nights draw in, but these aren’t always very good for us. However, it’s totally possible to have comforting AND healthy meals – it may just take a bit more planning. Think homemade vegetable soups, warm porridge oats and hearty stews full of goodness. Not only will our energy increase, but this will also boost our immunity against winter colds and can save us money too! Feeling fuller for longer, we can maintain a more stable mood and enjoy boosted energy levels. There are some easy and nutritious recipe ideas here which are also cheap to make. Winter warmer recipes | BBC Good Food These are bound to boost energy levels and taste good!

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Get cosy

Making indoors warm and inviting so that you can enjoy the feeling of snuggling up inside. Woolly blankets, scented candles and furry onesies are lovely to come home to after a tiring day. And can save on the heating bills by adding an extra layer! Embrace the darker nights, add some twinkling fairy lights. Why wait until Christmas?

Invest in a UV lamp

Some of us really struggle with the lack of sunlight so one option could be to invest in a light therapy lamp which can easily be added to a desk at work or home. writes “Light therapy lamps are bright lamps commonly used to treat seasonal affective disorder (SAD), depression, and sleep disorders. The lamps are widely available, and you can use them at home: Simply turn on your light therapy lamp and sit near it for a set period of time (typically 15–60 minutes).”

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Get active

There are lots of different activities we can choose from to increase our physical activity including low impact exercise like swimming, yoga and cycling. Or simply turning up the music, drawing the curtains and dancing around the house can be a fun way of adding movement to the day! Whatever way works best for you, getting active not only increases our fitness and boosts energy levels but also our mood. We can think more clearly, feel more positive and aches and pains can ease. Here are some quick stretch exercises you can do at your desk which can get the circulation going. Desk-based exercises ( With many of us still working from home, it’s vital to get moving during the day to stay warm and well this winter.

Future planning

If you feel the need to have a summer holiday to look forward to, getting some dates booked in and some ideas for next year’s break away can feel good. Or if you’re able to get away before then, booking a Winter getaway can be a nice way to break up the colder seasons. A great way to keep focussed on a future plan is to create a mood board. Adding pictures to a wall or creating one online can be fun. Why not set it as your screen saver as a reminder that sunnier days will return? Canva has some great templates, many of which are free to use. Templates (

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I hope you found these energy boosting tips useful – free to comment with your ideas too! I’d love to hear your thoughts.

What is the purpose of a life coach?

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If you’ve wondered about hiring a life coach but feel a little unsure as to what the purpose of a personal coach is, or how it can benefit you – have a read through my latest post to learn more!

What is the purpose of a life coach?

According to the website verywellmind life coaches “aid their clients in improving their relationships, careers, and day-to-day lives. Life coaches can help you clarify your goals, identify the obstacles holding you back, and then come up with strategies for overcoming each obstacle.” A professional coach will allow you to openly discuss your current situation, help you to evaluate where you wish to make changes and empower you to set actionable steps to make those changes happen.

What sort of people hire a life coach?

Life coaches work with people from all backgrounds and all ages. Many people will think about hiring a coach when they feel stuck in a particular area of their life. That may be their career, their relationships with others or within their personal development. They may want to create a change, but don’t have the clarity to know exactly what that is. It maybe they know that they feel unhappy with their life at the moment, but aren’t sure why? Or it can often be the case that people know what they need to change, but don’t feel they have the confidence or motivation to do it on their own. Hiring a coach can be a great option for anybody at any stage of life!

What kind of situations can a coach help with?

Career change, returning to work after a break, confidence building, embarking on a new habit/routine, managing addictions, creating better relationships, improving performance at work, increasing health and wellbeing, starting up a new idea, business or moving to a new area. These are all common times when someone may look to hire a life coach.

What’s the difference between a life coach and counsellor?

Coaching cannot take place unless there is a goal. Unlike counsellors and other therapists, coaches focus on the future and what changes can be made rather than focussing on looking at why things in the past happened or why we behave in a certain way.

“Unlike life coaches, therapists and other mental health professionals focus on healing, treating mental health conditions, and helping people work through trauma and other issues from their past. While working with a life coach may help you to deal with certain unresolved issues, life coaches cannot treat mood disorders, anxiety disorders, addiction, or any other mental health condition.”

A professional coach may refer you to other forms of therapy if they feel this is needed. Counselling and coaching can work well in combination. For example, a coach may ask, “Did you attend your counselling session last week? How did it benefit you and are there any actions you have agreed to do before the next session?” A coach can be great at holding you accountable and keeping you on track with your goals!

What can a life coach do for me?

Life Coaching can be life changing and transformational. A coach can empower you to clearly see where you are now and where you’d like to be in future. They can support you to create small, realistic steps to get there so that you feel motivated and energised rather than overwhelmed and likely to give up. Life coaches often specialise in solution focussed approaches and motivational methods to help you to fully engage with your goal and make it happen for yourself. Short and long-term goals are clarified. Focus is stronger and motivation is boosted when you have a positive life coach onboard.

If you’d like to try coaching for yourself, the best way is to talk with a few different coaches and see how it feels for you. I offer a free consultation which allows us both to check out if we are a good fit to work together. This also helps you discover if coaching is the best way forward, or if not, I can recommend some other alternatives you can try.

What Does a Life Coach Actually Do?

In my latest blog post, I share professional insights into what really happens in a life coaching session and how this can impact coaching clients.

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So, what does a life coach actually do?

Life coaches empower people to find clarity and make changes in their lives so they can become happier, more satisfied and fulfilled. This can be in any area of life such as wellbeing and health, career and finances, relationships, personal development and growth.

What does finding clarity mean, and how can that help?

When we think about changes we wish to make, we can spend a long time thinking about all the possibilities but not take any action. Basically thinking ourselves around in circles. Procrastination and anxiety can creep in, both of which stop us from moving forward. If we are stressed or anxious, we can start to feel stuck and unsure of the best way out of a situation. This can lead to muddled thoughts, brain fog and a reduced sense of clarity. If we don’t know what we need to do, how will we ever make the change we feel is needed?

By giving someone a safe space to talk openly and honestly about what their current situation looks like, alongside asking targeting questions around their intentions and motivations, we can start to unravel thinking. Once this happens, people often find they know the answers themselves and regain the confidence and motivation they need to create an action plan.

Coaching is centred in action – if there is no goal, there can be no coaching. There’s a useful article here which offers further information: What is Coaching? – Life Coach Directory ( However, it’s vital to be able to break down longer term goals into small steps. A life coach will help clients to do this so as to reduce overwhelm and increase chances of success!

What else does a life coach do?

Life coaching can uncover limiting beliefs during a session. Not everything we believe about ourselves is true. A life coach may challenge these by asking questions such as; ‘Is this actually true? What evidence is there for and against this belief? What could you do if you believed something else?’ For example, if I’m career coaching and my client says they think they are too old to start their own business, it’s not up to me to say whether this is true or not. But it is my job to challenge their thinking if it could be holding them back from making changes they want. ‘How old do you think you have to be to start a business?’ This could be a thought provoking question which may result in them realising that there is not an age limit on business start up! (Or they may choose to continue to believe this and look at alternative goals.) My profile features on the life coach directory which offers further details of the coaching I offer: Abi Unwin – Bristol – Life Coach Directory (

What are some of the issues presented in a life coaching session?

Coaching can be used to help people with a variety of issues. These can include career changes, relationships and communication, confidence and motivation building and dealing with addictive behaviours. If there is an area of your life you wish to change, a life coach can empower you to make that change with confidence and clarity.

It may be that a coach will uncover issues which could need further support such as counselling, referral to a GP or other professional. The coaching process can encourage and motivate clients to engage with the support they need to improve their health and wellbeing. For example, if a client wishes to make changes to their career and reduce their working hours. During a coaching session, they disclose a health issue they have been ignoring due to having a poor work life balance. The coach may ask what action might be needed. The client knows they need to make a doctors appointment and will commit to doing so. As a coach will also provide an accountability check in during further sessions, the client can be more motivated and focussed to take the action they realise they need to. This may then support them to make improvements in other areas of their lives. Many coaches will take a holistic approach to working with clients.

How can working with a life coach benefit me?

Coaching is empowering and facilitating so you won’t become dependant.

It’s also about difference and allows you to break negative thought patterns which may have held you back before.

Life coaching is about listening – most people say they are listening but often they are just waiting.

Most of all, coaching increases your self confidence and resilience.

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Avoiding Burnout in the Workplace

Check out my recent blog on this topical subject highlighting how to avoid burnout and stress.  It covers what it is and why it happens, how to avoid it and useful links and resources.

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What is Burnout?

“Burnout: physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress: “high levels of professionalism which may result in burnout.” Oxford Languages Dictionary

The World Health Organization (2019) defines burnout as “a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.”

Various mental and physical health conditions can occur when we experience burnout . This can be observed in people who are employed or self employed, and also those who are not in paid employment but are caring for children or others who depend on them for support.

Am I at risk of burnout?

What are the signs of Burnout?

The physical symptoms include:

  • Feeling exhausted
  • Unable to recover from a common cold
  • Frequent headaches
  • Frequent gastrointestinal problems
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Shortness of breath

The behaviours include:

  • Irritability
  • Heightened emotional responses (quick to cry, quick to anger)
  • Suspicious and paranoid about colleagues
  • Substance abuse
  • Stubbornness, rigid thinking, and unwillingness to listen to other people
  • Negative attitude
  • Appears depressed

What are the causes of Burnout?

  • Unrealistic work expectations
  • Micromanagement
  • Poor instructions
  • Isolation
  • Lack of support

How to avoid Burnout?

Here are my top tips for preventing burnout. If you are experiencing burnout or feel you are at risk, please follow the link and get in touch. I have experience of over 15 years, coaching people in the workplace and this is an issue that can be rapidly improved with the right support. Career Coaching in Bristol – Abi Unwin – Certified Career Coach (

How to avoid burnout

Useful links for more information and support

If you are experiencing burnout symptoms, don’t delay in getting some advice and guidance to support a change and find out how to avoid burnout and stay well at work. Here are some links which may be useful for you:

Mental Health at Work website – Mind

Interventions to prevent burnout in high risk individuals: evidence review – GOV.UK (

Burnout – Mental Health UK (

How to find the right life coach for you

Whether it’s career or life coaching you are looking for, here are 7 things you should know.
  1. Life coaching works best when there is a strong relationship based on trust, openness and a natural connection between coach and coachee.  Many coaches will offer a free introductory call in their initial communication.  This is so they can find out if you are a good fit to work together and it’s a great way to find the right life coach for you.  I would encourage anyone searching for a life coach to book in with three different coaches. Then a comparison can be made and it’s possible to get a good idea of how different coaches communicate.  What is a good fit for someone else might not work so well for you. How to find the right life coach? This is the quickest way to get an initial feel for how the coach works. Book a FREE Coaching Consultation – Bristol – UK – Worldwide (
  2. Coaching is not regulated in the UK so it’s up to you to pick a coach with accreditations and qualifications.  Look for a coach with certified membership to the Association for Coaching or International Coaching Federation.  Are they accredited by the AFC or ICF and do they work within their code of conduct? 
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  3. What qualifications does the coach have?  Many coaches have specific coaching qualifications but also hold certificates in other areas which might be relevant to your needs.  For example, if you are looking for career coaching, a coach with an HR or management qualification might be a good indicator they are the right person to work with.  Or if it’s a life coach you want for more personal development goals, do they have qualifications in wellbeing or mental health work?  Continued professional development for coaches is provided by AFC and ICF. It is worth checking how your coach stays up to date with current coaching methods and new ways of working.
  4. Is your coach fully DBS checked?  For a coach to safely work with vulnerable adults and young people, they will need an up to date DBS check.  This is another indicator that a professional life coach can work safely with all groups of people.
  5. How much experience does the coach have?  It can be beneficial to work with an accredited coach who has built up a good level of experience. This can be checked out in reviews, testimonials and by asking the coach in the first introductory call.  If they are newly qualified, are they offering any discounts or special offers?  A newly qualified coach can be bang up to date with the latest coaching methods so it’s not necessarily a negative. However, you need to ensure you are fully aware of their level of experience before committing to work with them.
  6. What do their previous coachees say about them?  Reviews and testimonials can tell you a lot about the service they provide.  Check google ratings, the coaches own website and social media channels for client reviews.
  7. How to find a coach?  As well as doing a google search, there are directories like The Life Coach Directory Abi Unwin – Bristol – Life Coach Directory ( where you can find a local or remote coach to work with.  Social Media channels are also another way to check out various coaches profiles. Many post reels and short films on their channels to promote their work and share case studies.

I hope this is helpful. I am happy to answer any further questions you might have around how to find the right life coach in the comments below.  Good luck in finding the right coach for you!